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As in told you in the article -Lessons from a ‘freshman’ in the ‘real world’, I recently left the sheltered life I have lived since I remember and I am trying to navigate my way in the world. Men there is a loot I didn’t know. I can’t seem to get over the shock of how much I have learnt and still have to learn
Some of the lessons I have recently picked up are :
You know nothing
The real world is not your school. It is not your home. It is not any of your comfort zones. It is the real world. A world which, if you have lived a sheltered life like most of us, you know nothing.
Therefore, you know that know-it-all attitude we fresh graduates tend to carry around? Yeah, that one. Drop it! Be eager, be ready, and be determined, to learn from the veterans. That is the only way you can find your way out here.
“Art of learning how to make decisions is learning how to live with the poor ones.”
Learn to stand up for yourself
Do you know who the world swallows up alive? People who don’t have the spine to stand up for themselves and their beliefs. It is important for you to stand up for you. You want something, say it! You don’t like something, say it! You have something to say, say! It is that simple and difficult.
The catch is in knowing when to be forthright and when to be smart. Because, as much as being forthright exudes confidence it doesn’t always help your course. To succeed or rather help your course, you will have to come up with creative, smart, non-forthright but totally legal ways of standing up for yourself.
I have to wish you the BEST of luck in this cause you are gonna need it.
It is totally okay not to get it right in the beginning.
It is probably when you join the work force and you don’t get the results you expected. Or maybe it is a decision or a choice you have to make. It could be a number of things that make you beat yourself up for not getting them right.
Well, stop with the self-inflicted pressure because it is all part of the process. The learning and growing process. The best you can do is enjoy the process and take whatever you can from it.
Someone wise said “art of learning how to make decisions is learning how to live with the poor ones.”
Learn the gamblers song by heart, and you will just be alright.
You have to swallow it!
Your pride, I mean.
There will be instances when you are forced to apologize for crimes you didn’t commit, things which you did that are perceived as wrong but aren’t actually wrong. In the work place you are going to be treated as KYM- kazi ya mkono which is absolutely wrong.
In short you are going to have to put up with a lot of BS. And I know, it is unfair. It is decharectarising. It goes against you principles. But if you play your cards right, it will work to your advantage.
I know it contradicts the second point, but then again, that is just how tricky the world is.
Silicon Valley is pretty awesome!
I had to get this out there one way or another😜. For tech lovers who love a good laugh like me, this is the TV show for you. You are going to be holding your sides from season 1 through 5.
Anyway, back to why I mentioned it. This show is quite educative. It will teach you a lot about how the world runs and how to successfully navigate your way in it. You will love how our Richie grows from a naïve genius to a mastermind who beats Gavin Belson at his own game.
Enjoy watching it, but DON’T emulate the language though!
As you can see, nothing is in black and white. All I can do is give you one piece of advice; learn the gamblers song by heart, and you will just be alright!\
All the BEST!
Nice post
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Merci Mistimaan… It’s been long since I read from you… You alright?
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Yeah I m ok and very soon I am going to write
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Well, I will be waiting
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Are you on Instagram or Facebook….so we can connect there also
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I am on Instagram as baraka.happuch… Though just a heads up, you might be a little disappointed cause I am not that active
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Welcome to the reaL world. I think we all come to this realisation sooner or later. I blame our parents. Instead of keeping us sheltered they needed to tell us the harsh reality of life. Everyone in the entire world is busy living their life and doing what works for them and sometimes they have to lie cheat and steal to achieve that. Sometimes he relationships are fake, people are ingenuine all because we all want to survive…Damn that seems brutal.
I partially agree with swallowing your pride and it can also hinges on standing up for yourself. I believe you should fight for what you believe in, I am not going to allow someone to shove their opinions and beliefs down my throa, what gives their opinions and beliefs authority over mine? I am not accepting wrong for something I didn’t do and I’m not apologising for it either… lol yes your points do contradict… it boils down to who plays the game better I guess… and sometimes the winner is who played dirtiest… nice post…
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Yeah, sometimes the winner is he who plays dirtiest. I do believe, one can win by playing smart and not necessarily dirty ie like gambling.
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