Posted in Girls, Thoughts, Women

My favorite songs about women reclaiming their power in relationships

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I love listening to music. I do so when I am washing utensils, doing my laundry or sometimes, passively when I am writing. Whenever I am actively listening to a song, I listen to every word in it, try to find the poetry in it, the meaning behind; every word, intonation, sigh etc. Yesterday, I was listening to one of the songs that I haven’t listened to in a long while. A song that reminded me of how we women tend to lose our power in relationships.
As women, when we love a guy so much, we tend to let them walk all over us. It always starts with us letting them have their way in small things like choosing when to meet, a restaurant to go to, a date spot and before we know it, we don’t have any more power to lose.
In light of this reminder, I dug through my old playlist and came up with the following songs about women taking control in relationships.

Don’t let it go to your head by Jordin sparks

I fell in love with this song the first time I heard it which was some years back and then I forgot about it until yesterday when I stumbled on it.
Jordin is basically telling her love interest that as much as she has all these feelings towards him that she can’t control, she is still in control of what she does with them and he should therefore not let it go to his head.

Just cause I can’t go on

Just cause I die when you are gone

Just cause I think of you in bed

Don’t let it go to your head

Selfish by Asia cruise

You ever come across those guys who are just never wrong and have this cunning way of making everything your fault? Well, Asia here is singing about such a guy. According to her, the solution is leaving him.

Can’t stay another day when you’re always

Getting your way, you just keep getting your way

You just keep getting your way, you are selfish

So I decided not to get in your way

It’s time to do it my way

And that means getting away from you

You are selfish!

I conquer with her cause, such guys, however the number of chances you give them, they just don’t change leaving you with one option, leaving.

Irreplaceable by Beyoncé

When it comes to songs about girl power, our girl Beyoncé has never disappointed. From ‘survivor’ while she was still in Destiny’s Child to ‘who runs the world’ and we love her for that.
When I first heard this song , I never paid much attention to it, but when I finally did, I loved it. As much as my moral upbringing doesn’t allow me to agree with her telling her boyfriend, though a cheater, to return all the things she bought for him, I agree with her telling him that he is not irreplaceable.You must not know about me

You must not know about me

I could have another you by tomorrow

So don’t ever for a second get to thinking

You are irreplaceable

The songs above and many more, sang by women, remind us to reclaim our power in relationships and it is never too late for that. So if you are a woman in such a relationship, your power is yours for the taking.

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Posted in Girls, Height, Women

Tall Girls’ Problems

photo by me

Being tall is good. Strike that! Is great! From rocking long legs in the little black dress and looking absolutely stunning in a maxi dress to ‘long legs advantage’ when running for dear life during campus police party raids. From not struggling to reach for peanut butter (or anything in that case) from the top shelf to not struggling to get attention (whether you want it or not)… just like our legs, the list is very long. But like a coin, any coin, you flip it and you are presented with the other side; the not so glamorous side.

People thinking you are older than you actually are
This is especially true in my village where most people (especially the older generation) equate age with height. Back in class four, my grade teacher asked me how old I was and when I said I was 8 years (and turning nine in two months’ time which is the average age of students in class 4 here in Kenya), he did not believe me and pointedly told the class that I must be 12 years because I was taller than everybody. I have never been so hurt.

Those weird looks that you get when you run
I don’t know if I am the only one who experiences this or gets bothered by it, but whenever I run, I get these weird looks from people as if they have watched ,my huge steps swallow something or maybe heard the ground’s cry for help. I could never tell which is the why.

Acting cute just doesn’t work for us
Short girls are cute when they act cute (and sometimes even when they aren’t trying to), but for us, it mostly ends up being a cry for help. I once tried acting cute in front of some of my male friends, and they were like, what’s up with your face? Well, that put an end to this girl ever acting cute

The constant reminder of how getting a boyfriend is like trying to win a lottery
Personally, this is the most annoying one. Sometime back, I was taking a walk with my friend and most of the guys we met were commending my height (of course they were a mixture of mockeries and genuine comments). Anyway, my friend was like;
Friend X: I really love your height Shah
Me: 😁😊😊😊🙌
Friend X: But the thing is finding a boyfriend is some task
Me:🤦😒😢😢
As if I didn’t already know. The worst part is that she is 5’5 dating a 6’1 guy. So unfair 😢

Your single step is 3 times your friends
However much we try taking tiny steps, it just doesn’t work for us. There was this one time I was walking in the hallway of my faculty building and I overheard one of the guys who were walking in the opposite direction discussing how huge my steps are and laughing about it. Guys, I just can’t help it 🤷.

Group Photos
No matter where you stand in a group photo with your short friends, you are gonna look out of place. You stand on one end, it is gonna look like an alien . If you stand in the middle, well it’s gonna look like you are going to crash them all and if you stand at the back, you gonna look like you post your way to the photo. And all these with the constant risk of ending up with no forehead.
A solo photo happens to be the best option here, but if it happen to be taken by your short sister , you my friend, might end up with an unproportioned head-body ratio (incase you are wondering why I cut my head off that photo).

As much as the list of challenges is not that long but it’s a little discouraging, don’t fear to rock them huge steps.
Cheers to long legs and a life of being asked to reach for peanut butter or whatever else from the top shelf!